Bullying is a definite problem in schools all over the world, but what can you as a mentor do to help? The video above and links below aim to provide a possible answer to that question and give you resources to explore the subject further.
Bullying is a verbal, physical or social form of persistent provocation that is aggressive, negative, and habitual.
Bullying can take many forms, some of which you may already recognize; it can be starting rumors about a person, purposefully excluding them, threatening them, pushing, shoving, stealing lunch money, and more. What makes an act bullying instead of teasing or “being mean” is the power gap between the bully and victim and the persistent targeting. The bully constructs a situation in which the victim cannot protect themselves.
If you suspect that your scholar is being bullied, the best thing you can do is be a friend. There are many reasons a student might get picked on, but being confident and assertive can counteract the bullying. Most bullies act out towards classmates that do not have a large friend network to defend them or who react emotionally to provocation.
However, it’s important to stress that bullying is never the victim’s fault. A student’s reactions to being bullied do not justify the bullying. Regardless of how “different” you are, everyone deserves to live in a safe, respectful environment.
If you would like to read more on bullying check out the following links; they are not comprehensive, but they’re a great place to start learning about this complicated issue.
If you have specific questions or are unsure of how to proceed, don’t hesitate to contact your Match Specialist.
Olweus Bullying-Prevention Program:
Combating Bullies with Assertiveness:
The anatomy and psychology of a bully:
Colorado’s Bullying Legislation:
How to deal with mean girls: